How to Bring Really Good Friends into Your Life in 7 steps or less

1. List all the qualities you are looking for in a friend. As you write them down, begin each sentence with "I want”. I want a loyal friend who stands up for me. I want a friend who loves shopping or reading books just as much as me. I want my friend to believe in the good in everyone. If you’re having trouble coming up with detail, answer the following questions (Come up with 10-20 points): What do I want in my friend(s) mentally? What do I want in my friend(s) spiritually? What do I want in my friend(s) physically? What commonalities do I want to share with my friend(s)? How do I want my friend(s) to treat me and how do I want to treat them? What kind of trust, loyalty, love, understanding, and/or acceptance do I want to have between myself and my friend(s)? What do I want to gain from this friendship? What else?! 2. Now take these 10-20 points that you came up with and rewrite them into the present tense. Switching the “I want” to an “I have.” I have a loyal friend who stands up for me And remember, this is your list so if you want to add a little more, do it! The more details, the better the outcome! I have a loyal friend who stands up for me, I always feel safe with them and we always have lots of fun! 3. Now that you’ve rewritten your list as if the items have already happened, you can narrow down the list even more to 7-10 points. 4. Next write down your affirmation. The act of affirming or the state of being affirmed; assertion. Something declared to be true; a positive statement or judgment. Your affirmation for this exercise should be something like “I have found my perfect best friend and it was fast and easy” You’re going to repeat this to yourself for the next 30 days, over and over out loud or in your mind. Repeat it more and more every day, make it a race! In those 30 days, or very shortly after, you’re going to find the friends you wanted! Try this out and see for yourself how many wonderful people you can meet! 5. Find pictures that represent friendship to you. A group of friends hanging out, laughing. A few or a group of people going out to dinner or a movie. Concerts Dancing Anything! You decide what you want to do with your new and amazing friends.

How to Have a Fun Solo Girl’s Night Out with yourself in 7 steps or less

1. Make a list of 10 wants for how you want to feel about the night. What kind of things would you like to do? How would you want the atmosphere, energetic or more mellow? And use this first affirmation to get started: “Tonight I’m going to have a lot of fun!”

Write it on a note card.

I want to have a lot of fun tonight; I want to feel happy and alive! I want to feel excited, I want to watch fun shows, draw something cool to hang on the wall, hang out with a cool friend for an hour, treat myself to Starbucks, and to my favorite delicious food! I want to learn something and find interesting information or stimulating conversation! I want to dress comfortably while looking fabulous and pamper myself by doing my nails, toes, and really take time to enjoy myself. 2. Re-write the list by taking out the “I want” and rewriting in the present tense as if it was actually happening. I am having a lot of fun tonight, I am feeling happy and alive! I am excited! Watching fun shows while I draw something cool for the wall, drinking a Starbucks with my cool friend for an hour, and my favorite delicious food! I am learning interesting and amazing things from the great conversations I have! I am dressed comfortably, and still look fabulous! My nails and toes look bright and fresh and I am really enjoying myself! 3. Read the list to yourself 5 times. Now write down a list of everything that strikes you as the most fun and rewrite your list from most fun to least. 4. Organize everything you need for the list. If you need to pick up food, take the time to go out beforehand or find out the info for the restaurant you’re going to. 5. While you’re organizing everything, continue to repeat your new affirmation: “I am having a lot of fun!” 6. Keep brainstorming fun things to do for your solo Girl’s Night Out! And keep adding them to the list until your evening is full or keep going for the next time!

Learn to relax and create a routine to de-stress in 7 steps or less

1. Your affirmation is going to be: “I am learning to be relaxed” and you’re going to start repeating this all day every day, as many times as possible from waking until bedtime. You are going to see a difference in 3 days if you consistently repeat this as if you were memorizing it.

2. Your next affirmation is: “I have found/created the perfectly fun, short and simple routine to de-stress everyday that I always look forward to doing.”

It may seem long, this one you don’t have to repeat fast all day, just repeat it a good amount a little slower so you hear everything your repeating. Memorize it, then start repeating it a little faster, in a comfortable speed.

3. Start including a 10 min nap 1-2 times a day. The first time is once half of your day has passed, if you can, to de-stress and relax and the second is an emergency nap before late night events. Lay down comfortably, with the air at a comfortable temperature, just be relaxed. Close your eyes and breath through your nose, taking deep relaxing breaths. Repeat “I am staying awake, yet letting go of all the stress and my energy is increasing faster and faster, as soon as I wake up I am going to be energetic, happy, relax and ready for everything that’s coming, and after 10 minutes I’m automatically waking up”

4. Write it on a note card & carry it with you to help to remind you to repeat!

5. Memorize this, and repeat it to your comfort as you lay, this will help you stay awake and gain the most out of your nap.

Getting up easily early in the morning in 7 steps or less

1. This is a really good exercise to start helping you mold your schedule. You need an affirmation you’re going to repeat during the day. To create the affirmation, write down what time you want to get up, how easily you want to wake up and lastly what is the first thing you want to do after you get up.

1. "I want to get up at 4 am.”

2. "I want to get up quickly and easily.”

3. “I want to go straight to the shower as soon as I get up.”

Now combine all 3 above into 1 sentence.

"I want to get up at 4 am and its easy, I immediately go straight to the shower".”

Now take out “want to”.

“I get up at 4 am and its easy, I immediately go straight to the shower.”

2. What you did by taking out the “want to” is put it in the present tense, as if its happening right now. Keep repeating this affirmation as much as you can all day and you’ll feel like it, good things are going to happen! Write down the affirmation on a note card and carry it with you everywhere you go, repeat it for at least 4 weeks and see how easily you are going to start waking up, and happily!

3. To get up easily the first thing you need to do is to prepare. Get your clothing, food, home, and materials for the next day ready and spend the last 30 minutes before bed getting everything together so you can get up and go the next day.

4. Clothing is just having your outfit ready on a chair for you to put on in the morning, easy! (I have an entry about picking out your outfit for the next day) Also be sure to consider any accessories, jewelry, scarves, etc. you may want to add to your outfit!

5. Food: Make your lunch for the next day and prepare the products to be cooked for breakfast, think ahead about your food as well as anything you may want throughout the day.

6. Organize your environment, your room, desk and everything around you where you wake up, getting an alarm with which you can play your favorite music would be a big bonus. Having a clear area allows us to focus on the things we want to get done, clear the mental clutter by cleaning your home!

7. Materials for the next day may be any paperwork that needs to be ready and anything you need to take to work, meetings, anything you need the next day. Get it ready next to the door so you can just grab it.

- Watch a comedy before bed, make sure to go to sleep happy, watch funny videos or read something. You know what makes you happy when you do it so do something that will put you in that mood before bed

- As you lay in your bed falling asleep repeat as much as you can until you sleep “ I am getting up at ______ and its going to be easy!”, just repeat over and over like a race, this will also help you fall asleep

Find shows you really like in 7 steps or less

1. Make a list of topics that you really like, things you would want the shows to be about. How many shows? What time you want them to be on? How easily you can access them?

2. Be sure to write them down in a full sentences starting with "I want"

1. I want the shows to be about fashion, comedy, happiness and excitement.

2. I want to come home in excitement because my shows start right when i am home relaxed, at _____ PM/AM.

3. I want to easily watch my shows.

4. I want to have 4 shows i watch a week regularly. (Take a whole week on this, meaning work on the list everyday, add as many points as you can at least for a week)

Come up with at least 10 to 20 wants.

3. Rewrite the list as if it’s already happened and take out the "I want".

1. The shows are about fashion, comedy, happiness and excitement.

2. I come home in excitement because my shows start right when i am home ,relaxed, at ___ PM/AM.

3. I easily watch my shows.

4. I have 4 shows i watch a regularly.

4. Convert every point until or 10 to 20 are now converted.

5. Narrow the list down to 7 points or less and type them into a neatly arranged one page document.

6. Label the document "My Favorite Show Descriptions - __.__.____ (date)" (descriptions meaning your goals written out in detailed points.

7. The next line would be your affirmation.

af·fir·ma·tion: 1. The act of affirming or the state of being affirmed; assertion.

2. Something declared to be true; a positive statement or judgment.

3. Law A solemn declaration given in place of a sworn statement by a person who conscientiously objects to taking an oath.

Your affirmation for this goal is "I found ___ shows that i really, really like!" You’re going to repeat this to yourself for the next 30 days, over and over in your head. Repeat it more and more every day, make it a race. In the next thirty days or very soon after you are going to find the shows you want at times that work for you! Try this out and see it for yourself.

* Review:

First line- "description title and date"

Second line "Affirmation for the Goals” (which you will repeat all day everyday for the next 30 days)

Third line - 7 point or less, written in the present tense as if they have already happened to you!

Fourth line - Read the description every morning, noon and before bed for 30 days or more and repeat the affirmation in between the reading and continue with the affirmation all throughout the day.

Excellent Shopping Sphreee! in 7 steps or less

1. WHAT DO YOU WANT?? MAKE THAT LIST!!

What do you want to shop for?

Make a list of all the items you would like to purchase, for example:

Blue Skinny Jeans that fit me perfectly, make my butt look amazing and are comfortable, $9.99 or less

Sexy Grey Dress, comfortable, soft material, and is going to make me look radiant, $9.99 or less

White Shorts, fit me perfectly, easy to wear and comfortable, $9.99or less

3 Large, Off the Shoulder Tops, all sexy colors, fit well, comfortable and make me feel confident, each $6.99 or less and easy to find!

2. Total how much you want to spend and put it in an affirmation, for example :

“I am spending less than $__.__ and getting everything on my list plus more! Shopping is fun and easy!”

Or “Think one for yourself” : )

3. Start your day off right!

I suggest going shopping in the morning during the week while everyone is at work, it may not be easy, but find a day and affirm “I found the perfect day for shopping!” and it will happen!

4. Eat light and hydrate

I recommend some fruit or oatmeal and remember to bring something along as well as some water. Feel good today, it’s your day to splurge and you deserve it!!!

5. Finally, as you are trying things on or even as soon as you wake up that morning, begin repeating:

“I am fitting into everything perfectly, I look sexy in everything I am wearing and trying on!.”

Write all of your affirmations on a note card or small paper and bring it along, use it! : )

6. HAVE FUN!!! Feel sexy and give yourself whatever you want! You deserve it!

Best groceries shopping in 7 steps or less

1. Make a list of all the food you want in the following format:

I want a portabella mushroom pizza with garlic

I want to buy the freshest mozzarella cheese

I want the best sour dough bread

Etc.

2. Rewrite the whole list into a simpler version:

Portabella mushroom pizza with garlic

Fresh mozzarella cheese

Best sour dough bread

Etc.

3. At the end of the list write how much you want to spend on everything!

(Not how much you think you NEED to, but how much you WANT to. Make the price reasonably small.)

4. This exercise is meant to show much less you can pay for your groceries if you take the time to decide on the price you want to pay beforehand and concentrate on that amount all the while you’re shopping. Watch how much you can save! (Now take it a step further and imagine, with no limits, anything within your hearts’ desire.. because if you use this method, you will find even the most impossible items seem within your grasp!)

“I am spending $20 or less.” (which will be the affirmation you will be repeating during shopping along with “and this shopping spree is so much fun, I found everything I wanted.”)

Repeat this 5 times every 15 min or so as you shop along with your list

5. AFFIRMATION:

“I am spending $20 or less and this shopping spree is so much fun, I found everything I wanted.”

Write this on a note card and bring with you along with the list.

6.

Extra tip:

You can even decide how long you want to do this in! Say, in 30 min, then repeat:

“I am shopping and getting everything done in only 30 min as well!”